It’s 3 PM. You’re knee-deep in a crucial client proposal, the deadline is looming, & your six-year-old has just burst in, masterpiece from school clutched in their hand, desperate for your immediate admiration. Or perhaps it’s that familiar pang as you shut your laptop, knowing you’re *technically* off-duty, but your toddler tugs at your leg, wanting to play. Sound familiar? Thought so!

If you’re an ambitious female entrepreneur & a mother, chances are you’ve met the ‘Mum Guilt’ Gremlin.

He’s that persistent, niggling voice whispering that you’re not doing enough, not present enough, not *enough* in either your role as a CEO or as a mum. He used to tell me I was failing my kids if I dared to spend an hour on a client call instead of baking organic cookies!

Believe me, as a mother of four, navigating a PhD, & steering the ship here at Femmeprenista, I know this Gremlin intimately. He used to be a very unwelcome guest in my head, especially in the early days, & even now, he tries to sneak back in. (And honestly? There are days when I STILL feel that pang, wondering if I’m truly present enough for the little ones). But here’s the empowering truth I’ve learned & want to share with you: while this Gremlin is a common visitor for many of us, he doesn’t get to dictate your journey, your peace, or your success. You absolutely *can* learn to turn down his volume, & even show him the door.

It’s not about magic wands or pretending the juggle isn’t real – because, let’s be honest, it’s beautifully chaotic at times! It’s about consciously shifting your mindset, strategically refuelling your own wellbeing, & recognising the incredible strengths motherhood itself brings to your entrepreneurial table. So, grab a cuppa (if the kids & pets allow!), & let’s explore how you can take personal responsibility to silence that Gremlin & truly thrive.

First off, let’s be clear: if you’re feeling this, you are so not alone. This particular brand of guilt seems to be almost a rite of passage for entrepreneurial mothers. We’re driven, we’re passionate about our businesses, we want to make an impact (and an income!), but we’re also deeply committed to our children. Society, & often our own internalised expectations, can create this impossible ideal of the “perfect mother” who is always present, always patient, always baking organic muffins, while simultaneously being the “perfect entrepreneur” who is always hustling, always innovating, always available. It’s a recipe for feeling like you’re constantly failing at something.

The Gremlin thrives in this perceived gap between our ambition & our maternal ideals. He loves to point out the school play you missed for a vital conference, or the rushed bedtime story because you had emails to answer. He’s a master of the “shoulds” & “shouldn’ts.” But what if we decided to see him not as a judge, but as a (slightly annoying) messenger?

Your mindset is your most powerful tool in this. It’s where we cultivate the clarity & resilience to see the Gremlin for what he is – often just a bundle of outdated beliefs & unhelpful self-talk. This is a core part of what we explore within the Femmeprenista approach, helping you build that unshakeable inner foundation.

That nasty little voice saying, “I’m not doing enough”? Or “I’m a terrible mum for working so much”? It’s time for a rebrand.

Instead of “I’m not doing enough,” try: **”I am making conscious choices based on my current priorities for my family & my business.”**

Honestly, I remember a time when my eldest had a minor school assembly, nothing major, but it clashed with a one-off opportunity to pitch for a significant piece of work that could really move the needle for us as a family. The Gremlin was having a field day! “A good mum would be there!” But I took a breath & reframed: “I am choosing to pursue this opportunity *because* it supports our family’s long-term vision. I will connect with my teenage daughter about her assembly afterwards & make that time special.” It wasn’t about being a ‘bad mum’, it was about a strategic, loving choice. And guess what? She was fine, proud of her little part, & we had a lovely chat about it later. The world didn’t end. The business, however, took a leap forward.

It’s about understanding that you’re navigating a complex life with finite resources. Every ‘yes’ to one thing is an implicit ‘no’ to another, & that’s okay. It’s about intentionality, not inadequacy. If you’re looking to find more clarity on how to align your business with your deepest values & purpose, exploring frameworks that support female entrepreneurs in integrating all aspects of their lives can be a game-changer. The importance of clarity around your values & beliefs is a crucial part of our Business Flourish Framework. The ‘Focus’ pillar helps visionary leaders & foundation builders define this all-important vision! Find out more [Link to: Femmeprenista Work With Us page]

Perfectionism is the Mum Guilt Gremlin’s favourite fuel. He thrives when you’re striving for an unattainable ideal in every area of your life. The perfectly tidy house, the gourmet family meals every night, the flawless business launch, the Pinterest-worthy kids’ parties… it’s exhausting, & frankly, unrealistic!

Here’s a secret: ‘good enough’ is often brilliant. A home filled with laughter & connection, even if there are toys on the floor & a pile of laundry waiting, is a wonderful home. A business that’s growing & serving clients, even if not every single post goes viral or every system is perfectly automated yet, is a successful business. I’m telling you, my own house, with four children & two lively Miniature Pinschers – Cappuccino, our chilled older girl, & Espresso, her bouncing-off-the-walls daughter – is a testament to embracing beautiful chaos! Just the other day, I was trying to record a quick video for our Femme:Connect community, & Espresso decided my microphone cable was a new tug toy, while my toddler daughter thought it was a perfect time to practice her loudest opera singing. Was it perfect? Absolutely not. Was it real life? 100%. And sometimes, that authenticity is what people connect with most.

Let go of the need for everything to be perfect. Focus on progress, connection, & what truly matters. You’ll find the Gremlin has much less to shout about.

Sometimes, that niggle of guilt isn’t just random noise. It might actually be a signal that something is out of alignment. Instead of letting it paralyse you, get curious.

Ask yourself:

* What is this guilt *really* telling me?

* Is it pointing to a boundary that needs to be set or reinforced?

* Is it highlighting a system that’s not working efficiently, causing me to feel constantly rushed & stretched?

* Is it suggesting a genuine need to re-evaluate my priorities for this particular season?

When you treat guilt as a compass, it can guide you towards positive changes that enhance your wellbeing & effectiveness, rather than just making you feel rubbish.

You can’t pour from an empty cup – it’s a cliché because it’s true. Silencing the Mum Guilt Gremlin isn’t just about mindset; it’s about actively nurturing your own wellbeing so you have the energy, resilience, & clarity to navigate the demands of business & motherhood. This is a crucial element of how we approach holistic success at Femmeprenista, ensuring your business energises rather than drains you. This focus on your wellbeing is our ‘Fuel’ pillar within our Business Flourish Framework, supporting a sustainable approach to achieving your entrepreneurial dreams. Find out more [Link to: How We Work / Business Flourish Framework]

Boundaries are not selfish; they are a profound act of self-respect & a critical strategy for sustainable success. They tell the world – & yourself – what you will & won’t accept, & where your energy needs to be directed.

This means:

* **Time Boundaries:** Clearly define your work hours & your family/personal time, & stick to them as much as humanly possible. This might mean having dedicated ‘deep work’ slots for your PhD research where the family knows you’re not to be disturbed unless it’s a real emergency, or non-negotiable family dinner times.

* **Energy Boundaries:** Learn to say “no” to commitments, requests, or even clients that drain your energy or don’t align with your priorities.

* **Communication Boundaries:** You don’t have to reply to every email or message instantly; set expectations for response times.

Honestly, I once took on a project that, on paper, looked fantastic. My gut, however, was screaming “this is going to be a nightmare for your schedule!” I ignored it, & sure enough, it bled into every corner of my family life, leaving me stressed & resentful. What’s worse, I’d promised myself & the family that this month would be different – more time together! The lesson? Protecting my boundaries, even if it means missing an “opportunity,” ultimately protects my peace & my ability to show up well in all areas.

**Here’s a practical example**: Block out specific times in your calendar dedicated solely to self-care, even if it’s just 15-20 minutes. Treat these slots as non-negotiable appointments, just like client meetings.

This isn’t about grand spa days (though lovely if you can manage them!). It’s about weaving small, consistent acts of self-nourishment into your daily life.

* Could it be 15 minutes of quiet reading before the household wakes?

* A walk during your lunch break?

* Ensuring you eat nourishing meals?

* Actually scheduling that coffee with a friend?

When you prioritise your own needs, you have more energy, patience, & creativity for both your children & your business. It’s an investment, not an indulgence.

**Juggler’s Shortcut:** Prepare a simple “Wellbeing Menu” of quick, easily accessible self-care activities (e.g., a 5-minute meditation, listening to a favourite song, a quick stretch). Refer to it when you feel overwhelmed or depleted.

You don’t have to do this alone! The entrepreneurial journey, especially when combined with motherhood, can feel isolating.

* **Peer Support:** Connect with other female entrepreneurs who *get it*. Sharing experiences, challenges, & wins with
women on a similar path is invaluable. This is why our Femme:Connect community is so important – it’s a space for that genuine connection & mutual uplifting.

* **Mentors & Coaches:** Invest in guidance from those who’ve walked the path & can offer strategic insight & accountability.

* **Practical Support:** Where possible, outsource or delegate tasks that drain you or aren’t your zone of genius – both in your business & at home.

Having people in your corner who understand, support, & champion you makes a world of difference in keeping the Gremlin at bay.

**Smallest Viable Step**: Identify one fellow female entrepreneur you admire & reach out to schedule a virtual coffee chat. Share your challenges & offer support in return.

Now, let’s flip the script on the idea that motherhood is a hindrance to entrepreneurship. I firmly believe it’s one of our greatest assets. Think about it – as mothers, we are constantly honing an incredible set of skills that are directly transferable to running a successful business:

* **Advanced Multitasking & Prioritisation:** Juggling school runs, meal prep, homework, & now a client launch? You’re a logistics queen!

* **Deep Empathy & Emotional Intelligence:** Understanding the unspoken needs of a non-verbal toddler or navigating the emotional rollercoaster of a teenager gives you incredible insight into understanding client needs & motivations.

* **Profound Resilience:** Bounced back from a sleepless night with a sick child to deliver a killer presentation? You’ve got grit in spades.

* **Crisis Management:** A sudden nappy explosion just as you’re about to leave for an important meeting? Or the school calling to say someone’s forgotten their PE kit again? You’re a pro at thinking on your feet & finding solutions under pressure. To tell you the truth, I once had to negotiate a complex supplier contract right after mediating a fierce debate between my two daughters over whose turn it was to choose the movie – the empathy & calm negotiation skills definitely came in handy for both!

* **Masterful Time Management:** Fitting work around nap times, school pick-ups, & after-school clubs? You’re an expert at maximising precious pockets of time.

Mothers are great for being able to multitask as 72% are CEO’s of their houses. Don’t just acknowledge these skills – actively leverage them! Your patience, your ability to nurture, your incredible efficiency – these are superpowers in the business world. Own them.

Ultimately, silencing the Mum Guilt Gremlin comes down to taking personal responsibility for your mindset, your choices, & your wellbeing. Yes, societal pressures exist. Yes, the juggle is real. But you are not a passive victim of circumstance. You have the power to actively manage your thoughts, implement new strategies, & build a life & business that feel aligned & fulfilling.

It’s about working smart, not just hard. It’s about being kind to yourself. It’s about remembering that your journey as a mother-entrepreneur is unique & valid. You might feel like the tortoise sometimes, especially when you see others apparently racing ahead, but as long as you keep moving, keep learning, & keep taking ownership, you *will* get there. Your version of “there.”

So, the next time that Mum Guilt Gremlin starts whispering in your ear, take a deep breath. Acknowledge him, then politely (or not so politely!) tell him you’re busy thriving. You’ve got this.

P.S. What’s one mindset shift or wellbeing strategy you’re going to commit to this week to help quieten your own ‘Mum Guilt’ Gremlin? Share in the comments below – let’s support each other!

P.P.S. Join the conversation & get more insights & support in our Femme:Connect Facebook community today [Link to: https://www.facebook.com/groups/femmeconnect].

Carlene Nisbett

Founder & CEO, Femmeprenista (Coach, Mentor, Speaker)

[Image of Femmeprenista Logo here]

Wife, Mother of four, Business Owner, PhD Researcher, Pet mom, Plant mom, 5’0″ tall

Passionate Multitasker & Wine Lover, You get the drift…

www.femmeprenista.com

It’s 3 PM. You’re knee-deep in a crucial client proposal, the deadline is looming, & your six-year-old has just burst in, masterpiece from school clutched in their hand, desperate for your immediate admiration. Or perhaps it’s that familiar pang as you shut your laptop, knowing you’re *technically* off-duty, but your toddler tugs at your leg, wanting to play. Sound familiar? Thought so!

If you’re an ambitious female entrepreneur & a mother, chances are you’ve met the ‘Mum Guilt’ Gremlin.

He’s that persistent, niggling voice whispering that you’re not doing enough, not present enough, not *enough* in either your role as a CEO or as a mum. He used to tell me I was failing my kids if I dared to spend an hour on a client call instead of baking organic cookies!

Believe me, as a mother of four, navigating a PhD, & steering the ship here at Femmeprenista, I know this Gremlin intimately. He used to be a very unwelcome guest in my head, especially in the early days, & even now, he tries to sneak back in. (And honestly? There are days when I STILL feel that pang, wondering if I’m truly present enough for the little ones). But here’s the empowering truth I’ve learned & want to share with you: while this Gremlin is a common visitor for many of us, he doesn’t get to dictate your journey, your peace, or your success. You absolutely *can* learn to turn down his volume, & even show him the door.

It’s not about magic wands or pretending the juggle isn’t real – because, let’s be honest, it’s beautifully chaotic at times! It’s about consciously shifting your mindset, strategically refuelling your own wellbeing, & recognising the incredible strengths motherhood itself brings to your entrepreneurial table. So, grab a cuppa (if the kids & pets allow!), & let’s explore how you can take personal responsibility to silence that Gremlin & truly thrive.

First off, let’s be clear: if you’re feeling this, you are so not alone. This particular brand of guilt seems to be almost a rite of passage for entrepreneurial mothers. We’re driven, we’re passionate about our businesses, we want to make an impact (and an income!), but we’re also deeply committed to our children. Society, & often our own internalised expectations, can create this impossible ideal of the “perfect mother” who is always present, always patient, always baking organic muffins, while simultaneously being the “perfect entrepreneur” who is always hustling, always innovating, always available. It’s a recipe for feeling like you’re constantly failing at something.

The Gremlin thrives in this perceived gap between our ambition & our maternal ideals. He loves to point out the school play you missed for a vital conference, or the rushed bedtime story because you had emails to answer. He’s a master of the “shoulds” & “shouldn’ts.” But what if we decided to see him not as a judge, but as a (slightly annoying) messenger?

Your mindset is your most powerful tool in this. It’s where we cultivate the clarity & resilience to see the Gremlin for what he is – often just a bundle of outdated beliefs & unhelpful self-talk. This is a core part of what we explore within the Femmeprenista approach, helping you build that unshakeable inner foundation.

That nasty little voice saying, “I’m not doing enough”? Or “I’m a terrible mum for working so much”? It’s time for a rebrand.

Instead of “I’m not doing enough,” try: **”I am making conscious choices based on my current priorities for my family & my business.”**

Honestly, I remember a time when my eldest had a minor school assembly, nothing major, but it clashed with a one-off opportunity to pitch for a significant piece of work that could really move the needle for us as a family. The Gremlin was having a field day! “A good mum would be there!” But I took a breath & reframed: “I am choosing to pursue this opportunity *because* it supports our family’s long-term vision. I will connect with my teenage daughter about her assembly afterwards & make that time special.” It wasn’t about being a ‘bad mum’, it was about a strategic, loving choice. And guess what? She was fine, proud of her little part, & we had a lovely chat about it later. The world didn’t end. The business, however, took a leap forward.

It’s about understanding that you’re navigating a complex life with finite resources. Every ‘yes’ to one thing is an implicit ‘no’ to another, & that’s okay. It’s about intentionality, not inadequacy. If you’re looking to find more clarity on how to align your business with your deepest values & purpose, exploring frameworks that support female entrepreneurs in integrating all aspects of their lives can be a game-changer. The importance of clarity around your values & beliefs is a crucial part of our Business Flourish Framework. The ‘Focus’ pillar helps visionary leaders & foundation builders define this all-important vision! Find out more [Link to: Femmeprenista Work With Us page]

Perfectionism is the Mum Guilt Gremlin’s favourite fuel. He thrives when you’re striving for an unattainable ideal in every area of your life. The perfectly tidy house, the gourmet family meals every night, the flawless business launch, the Pinterest-worthy kids’ parties… it’s exhausting, & frankly, unrealistic!

Here’s a secret: ‘good enough’ is often brilliant. A home filled with laughter & connection, even if there are toys on the floor & a pile of laundry waiting, is a wonderful home. A business that’s growing & serving clients, even if not every single post goes viral or every system is perfectly automated yet, is a successful business. I’m telling you, my own house, with four children & two lively Miniature Pinschers – Cappuccino, our chilled older girl, & Espresso, her bouncing-off-the-walls daughter – is a testament to embracing beautiful chaos! Just the other day, I was trying to record a quick video for our Femme:Connect community, & Espresso decided my microphone cable was a new tug toy, while my toddler daughter thought it was a perfect time to practice her loudest opera singing. Was it perfect? Absolutely not. Was it real life? 100%. And sometimes, that authenticity is what people connect with most.

Let go of the need for everything to be perfect. Focus on progress, connection, & what truly matters. You’ll find the Gremlin has much less to shout about.

Sometimes, that niggle of guilt isn’t just random noise. It might actually be a signal that something is out of alignment. Instead of letting it paralyse you, get curious.

Ask yourself:

* What is this guilt *really* telling me?

* Is it pointing to a boundary that needs to be set or reinforced?

* Is it highlighting a system that’s not working efficiently, causing me to feel constantly rushed & stretched?

* Is it suggesting a genuine need to re-evaluate my priorities for this particular season?

When you treat guilt as a compass, it can guide you towards positive changes that enhance your wellbeing & effectiveness, rather than just making you feel rubbish.

You can’t pour from an empty cup – it’s a cliché because it’s true. Silencing the Mum Guilt Gremlin isn’t just about mindset; it’s about actively nurturing your own wellbeing so you have the energy, resilience, & clarity to navigate the demands of business & motherhood. This is a crucial element of how we approach holistic success at Femmeprenista, ensuring your business energises rather than drains you. This focus on your wellbeing is our ‘Fuel’ pillar within our Business Flourish Framework, supporting a sustainable approach to achieving your entrepreneurial dreams. Find out more [Link to: How We Work / Business Flourish Framework]

Boundaries are not selfish; they are a profound act of self-respect & a critical strategy for sustainable success. They tell the world – & yourself – what you will & won’t accept, & where your energy needs to be directed.

This means:

* **Time Boundaries:** Clearly define your work hours & your family/personal time, & stick to them as much as humanly possible. This might mean having dedicated ‘deep work’ slots for your PhD research where the family knows you’re not to be disturbed unless it’s a real emergency, or non-negotiable family dinner times.

* **Energy Boundaries:** Learn to say “no” to commitments, requests, or even clients that drain your energy or don’t align with your priorities.

* **Communication Boundaries:** You don’t have to reply to every email or message instantly; set expectations for response times.

Honestly, I once took on a project that, on paper, looked fantastic. My gut, however, was screaming “this is going to be a nightmare for your schedule!” I ignored it, & sure enough, it bled into every corner of my family life, leaving me stressed & resentful. What’s worse, I’d promised myself & the family that this month would be different – more time together! The lesson? Protecting my boundaries, even if it means missing an “opportunity,” ultimately protects my peace & my ability to show up well in all areas.

**Here’s a practical example**: Block out specific times in your calendar dedicated solely to self-care, even if it’s just 15-20 minutes. Treat these slots as non-negotiable appointments, just like client meetings.

This isn’t about grand spa days (though lovely if you can manage them!). It’s about weaving small, consistent acts of self-nourishment into your daily life.

* Could it be 15 minutes of quiet reading before the household wakes?

* A walk during your lunch break?

* Ensuring you eat nourishing meals?

* Actually scheduling that coffee with a friend?

When you prioritise your own needs, you have more energy, patience, & creativity for both your children & your business. It’s an investment, not an indulgence.

**Juggler’s Shortcut:** Prepare a simple “Wellbeing Menu” of quick, easily accessible self-care activities (e.g., a 5-minute meditation, listening to a favourite song, a quick stretch). Refer to it when you feel overwhelmed or depleted.

You don’t have to do this alone! The entrepreneurial journey, especially when combined with motherhood, can feel isolating.

* **Peer Support:** Connect with other female entrepreneurs who *get it*. Sharing experiences, challenges, & wins with
women on a similar path is invaluable. This is why our Femme:Connect community is so important – it’s a space for that genuine connection & mutual uplifting.

* **Mentors & Coaches:** Invest in guidance from those who’ve walked the path & can offer strategic insight & accountability.

* **Practical Support:** Where possible, outsource or delegate tasks that drain you or aren’t your zone of genius – both in your business & at home.

Having people in your corner who understand, support, & champion you makes a world of difference in keeping the Gremlin at bay.

**Smallest Viable Step**: Identify one fellow female entrepreneur you admire & reach out to schedule a virtual coffee chat. Share your challenges & offer support in return.

Now, let’s flip the script on the idea that motherhood is a hindrance to entrepreneurship. I firmly believe it’s one of our greatest assets. Think about it – as mothers, we are constantly honing an incredible set of skills that are directly transferable to running a successful business:

* **Advanced Multitasking & Prioritisation:** Juggling school runs, meal prep, homework, & now a client launch? You’re a logistics queen!

* **Deep Empathy & Emotional Intelligence:** Understanding the unspoken needs of a non-verbal toddler or navigating the emotional rollercoaster of a teenager gives you incredible insight into understanding client needs & motivations.

* **Profound Resilience:** Bounced back from a sleepless night with a sick child to deliver a killer presentation? You’ve got grit in spades.

* **Crisis Management:** A sudden nappy explosion just as you’re about to leave for an important meeting? Or the school calling to say someone’s forgotten their PE kit again? You’re a pro at thinking on your feet & finding solutions under pressure. To tell you the truth, I once had to negotiate a complex supplier contract right after mediating a fierce debate between my two daughters over whose turn it was to choose the movie – the empathy & calm negotiation skills definitely came in handy for both!

* **Masterful Time Management:** Fitting work around nap times, school pick-ups, & after-school clubs? You’re an expert at maximising precious pockets of time.

Mothers are great for being able to multitask as 72% are CEO’s of their houses. Don’t just acknowledge these skills – actively leverage them! Your patience, your ability to nurture, your incredible efficiency – these are superpowers in the business world. Own them.

Ultimately, silencing the Mum Guilt Gremlin comes down to taking personal responsibility for your mindset, your choices, & your wellbeing. Yes, societal pressures exist. Yes, the juggle is real. But you are not a passive victim of circumstance. You have the power to actively manage your thoughts, implement new strategies, & build a life & business that feel aligned & fulfilling.

It’s about working smart, not just hard. It’s about being kind to yourself. It’s about remembering that your journey as a mother-entrepreneur is unique & valid. You might feel like the tortoise sometimes, especially when you see others apparently racing ahead, but as long as you keep moving, keep learning, & keep taking ownership, you *will* get there. Your version of “there.”

So, the next time that Mum Guilt Gremlin starts whispering in your ear, take a deep breath. Acknowledge him, then politely (or not so politely!) tell him you’re busy thriving. You’ve got this.

P.S. What’s one mindset shift or wellbeing strategy you’re going to commit to this week to help quieten your own ‘Mum Guilt’ Gremlin? Share in the comments below – let’s support each other!

P.P.S. Join the conversation & get more insights & support in our Femme:Connect Facebook community today [Link to: https://www.facebook.com/groups/femmeconnect].

Carlene Nisbett

Founder & CEO, Femmeprenista (Coach, Mentor, Speaker)

[Image of Femmeprenista Logo here]

Wife, Mother of four, Business Owner, PhD Researcher, Pet mom, Plant mom, 5’0″ tall

Passionate Multitasker & Wine Lover, You get the drift…

www.femmeprenista.com

It’s 3 PM. You’re knee-deep in a crucial client proposal, the deadline is looming, & your six-year-old has just burst in, masterpiece from school clutched in their hand, desperate for your immediate admiration. Or perhaps it’s that familiar pang as you shut your laptop, knowing you’re *technically* off-duty, but your toddler tugs at your leg, wanting to play. Sound familiar? Thought so!

If you’re an ambitious female entrepreneur & a mother, chances are you’ve met the ‘Mum Guilt’ Gremlin.

He’s that persistent, niggling voice whispering that you’re not doing enough, not present enough, not *enough* in either your role as a CEO or as a mum. He used to tell me I was failing my kids if I dared to spend an hour on a client call instead of baking organic cookies!

Believe me, as a mother of four, navigating a PhD, & steering the ship here at Femmeprenista, I know this Gremlin intimately. He used to be a very unwelcome guest in my head, especially in the early days, & even now, he tries to sneak back in. (And honestly? There are days when I STILL feel that pang, wondering if I’m truly present enough for the little ones). But here’s the empowering truth I’ve learned & want to share with you: while this Gremlin is a common visitor for many of us, he doesn’t get to dictate your journey, your peace, or your success. You absolutely *can* learn to turn down his volume, & even show him the door.

It’s not about magic wands or pretending the juggle isn’t real – because, let’s be honest, it’s beautifully chaotic at times! It’s about consciously shifting your mindset, strategically refuelling your own wellbeing, & recognising the incredible strengths motherhood itself brings to your entrepreneurial table. So, grab a cuppa (if the kids & pets allow!), & let’s explore how you can take personal responsibility to silence that Gremlin & truly thrive.

First off, let’s be clear: if you’re feeling this, you are so not alone. This particular brand of guilt seems to be almost a rite of passage for entrepreneurial mothers. We’re driven, we’re passionate about our businesses, we want to make an impact (and an income!), but we’re also deeply committed to our children. Society, & often our own internalised expectations, can create this impossible ideal of the “perfect mother” who is always present, always patient, always baking organic muffins, while simultaneously being the “perfect entrepreneur” who is always hustling, always innovating, always available. It’s a recipe for feeling like you’re constantly failing at something.

The Gremlin thrives in this perceived gap between our ambition & our maternal ideals. He loves to point out the school play you missed for a vital conference, or the rushed bedtime story because you had emails to answer. He’s a master of the “shoulds” & “shouldn’ts.” But what if we decided to see him not as a judge, but as a (slightly annoying) messenger?

Your mindset is your most powerful tool in this. It’s where we cultivate the clarity & resilience to see the Gremlin for what he is – often just a bundle of outdated beliefs & unhelpful self-talk. This is a core part of what we explore within the Femmeprenista approach, helping you build that unshakeable inner foundation.

That nasty little voice saying, “I’m not doing enough”? Or “I’m a terrible mum for working so much”? It’s time for a rebrand.

Instead of “I’m not doing enough,” try: **”I am making conscious choices based on my current priorities for my family & my business.”**

Honestly, I remember a time when my eldest had a minor school assembly, nothing major, but it clashed with a one-off opportunity to pitch for a significant piece of work that could really move the needle for us as a family. The Gremlin was having a field day! “A good mum would be there!” But I took a breath & reframed: “I am choosing to pursue this opportunity *because* it supports our family’s long-term vision. I will connect with my teenage daughter about her assembly afterwards & make that time special.” It wasn’t about being a ‘bad mum’, it was about a strategic, loving choice. And guess what? She was fine, proud of her little part, & we had a lovely chat about it later. The world didn’t end. The business, however, took a leap forward.

It’s about understanding that you’re navigating a complex life with finite resources. Every ‘yes’ to one thing is an implicit ‘no’ to another, & that’s okay. It’s about intentionality, not inadequacy. If you’re looking to find more clarity on how to align your business with your deepest values & purpose, exploring frameworks that support female entrepreneurs in integrating all aspects of their lives can be a game-changer. The importance of clarity around your values & beliefs is a crucial part of our Business Flourish Framework. The ‘Focus’ pillar helps visionary leaders & foundation builders define this all-important vision! Find out more [Link to: Femmeprenista Work With Us page]

Perfectionism is the Mum Guilt Gremlin’s favourite fuel. He thrives when you’re striving for an unattainable ideal in every area of your life. The perfectly tidy house, the gourmet family meals every night, the flawless business launch, the Pinterest-worthy kids’ parties… it’s exhausting, & frankly, unrealistic!

Here’s a secret: ‘good enough’ is often brilliant. A home filled with laughter & connection, even if there are toys on the floor & a pile of laundry waiting, is a wonderful home. A business that’s growing & serving clients, even if not every single post goes viral or every system is perfectly automated yet, is a successful business. I’m telling you, my own house, with four children & two lively Miniature Pinschers – Cappuccino, our chilled older girl, & Espresso, her bouncing-off-the-walls daughter – is a testament to embracing beautiful chaos! Just the other day, I was trying to record a quick video for our Femme:Connect community, & Espresso decided my microphone cable was a new tug toy, while my toddler daughter thought it was a perfect time to practice her loudest opera singing. Was it perfect? Absolutely not. Was it real life? 100%. And sometimes, that authenticity is what people connect with most.

Let go of the need for everything to be perfect. Focus on progress, connection, & what truly matters. You’ll find the Gremlin has much less to shout about.

Sometimes, that niggle of guilt isn’t just random noise. It might actually be a signal that something is out of alignment. Instead of letting it paralyse you, get curious.

Ask yourself:

* What is this guilt *really* telling me?

* Is it pointing to a boundary that needs to be set or reinforced?

* Is it highlighting a system that’s not working efficiently, causing me to feel constantly rushed & stretched?

* Is it suggesting a genuine need to re-evaluate my priorities for this particular season?

When you treat guilt as a compass, it can guide you towards positive changes that enhance your wellbeing & effectiveness, rather than just making you feel rubbish.

You can’t pour from an empty cup – it’s a cliché because it’s true. Silencing the Mum Guilt Gremlin isn’t just about mindset; it’s about actively nurturing your own wellbeing so you have the energy, resilience, & clarity to navigate the demands of business & motherhood. This is a crucial element of how we approach holistic success at Femmeprenista, ensuring your business energises rather than drains you. This focus on your wellbeing is our ‘Fuel’ pillar within our Business Flourish Framework, supporting a sustainable approach to achieving your entrepreneurial dreams. Find out more [Link to: How We Work / Business Flourish Framework]

Boundaries are not selfish; they are a profound act of self-respect & a critical strategy for sustainable success. They tell the world – & yourself – what you will & won’t accept, & where your energy needs to be directed.

This means:

* **Time Boundaries:** Clearly define your work hours & your family/personal time, & stick to them as much as humanly possible. This might mean having dedicated ‘deep work’ slots for your PhD research where the family knows you’re not to be disturbed unless it’s a real emergency, or non-negotiable family dinner times.

* **Energy Boundaries:** Learn to say “no” to commitments, requests, or even clients that drain your energy or don’t align with your priorities.

* **Communication Boundaries:** You don’t have to reply to every email or message instantly; set expectations for response times.

Honestly, I once took on a project that, on paper, looked fantastic. My gut, however, was screaming “this is going to be a nightmare for your schedule!” I ignored it, & sure enough, it bled into every corner of my family life, leaving me stressed & resentful. What’s worse, I’d promised myself & the family that this month would be different – more time together! The lesson? Protecting my boundaries, even if it means missing an “opportunity,” ultimately protects my peace & my ability to show up well in all areas.

**Here’s a practical example**: Block out specific times in your calendar dedicated solely to self-care, even if it’s just 15-20 minutes. Treat these slots as non-negotiable appointments, just like client meetings.

This isn’t about grand spa days (though lovely if you can manage them!). It’s about weaving small, consistent acts of self-nourishment into your daily life.

* Could it be 15 minutes of quiet reading before the household wakes?

* A walk during your lunch break?

* Ensuring you eat nourishing meals?

* Actually scheduling that coffee with a friend?

When you prioritise your own needs, you have more energy, patience, & creativity for both your children & your business. It’s an investment, not an indulgence.

**Juggler’s Shortcut:** Prepare a simple “Wellbeing Menu” of quick, easily accessible self-care activities (e.g., a 5-minute meditation, listening to a favourite song, a quick stretch). Refer to it when you feel overwhelmed or depleted.

You don’t have to do this alone! The entrepreneurial journey, especially when combined with motherhood, can feel isolating.

* **Peer Support:** Connect with other female entrepreneurs who *get it*. Sharing experiences, challenges, & wins with
women on a similar path is invaluable. This is why our Femme:Connect community is so important – it’s a space for that genuine connection & mutual uplifting.

* **Mentors & Coaches:** Invest in guidance from those who’ve walked the path & can offer strategic insight & accountability.

* **Practical Support:** Where possible, outsource or delegate tasks that drain you or aren’t your zone of genius – both in your business & at home.

Having people in your corner who understand, support, & champion you makes a world of difference in keeping the Gremlin at bay.

**Smallest Viable Step**: Identify one fellow female entrepreneur you admire & reach out to schedule a virtual coffee chat. Share your challenges & offer support in return.

Now, let’s flip the script on the idea that motherhood is a hindrance to entrepreneurship. I firmly believe it’s one of our greatest assets. Think about it – as mothers, we are constantly honing an incredible set of skills that are directly transferable to running a successful business:

* **Advanced Multitasking & Prioritisation:** Juggling school runs, meal prep, homework, & now a client launch? You’re a logistics queen!

* **Deep Empathy & Emotional Intelligence:** Understanding the unspoken needs of a non-verbal toddler or navigating the emotional rollercoaster of a teenager gives you incredible insight into understanding client needs & motivations.

* **Profound Resilience:** Bounced back from a sleepless night with a sick child to deliver a killer presentation? You’ve got grit in spades.

* **Crisis Management:** A sudden nappy explosion just as you’re about to leave for an important meeting? Or the school calling to say someone’s forgotten their PE kit again? You’re a pro at thinking on your feet & finding solutions under pressure. To tell you the truth, I once had to negotiate a complex supplier contract right after mediating a fierce debate between my two daughters over whose turn it was to choose the movie – the empathy & calm negotiation skills definitely came in handy for both!

* **Masterful Time Management:** Fitting work around nap times, school pick-ups, & after-school clubs? You’re an expert at maximising precious pockets of time.

Mothers are great for being able to multitask as 72% are CEO’s of their houses. Don’t just acknowledge these skills – actively leverage them! Your patience, your ability to nurture, your incredible efficiency – these are superpowers in the business world. Own them.

Ultimately, silencing the Mum Guilt Gremlin comes down to taking personal responsibility for your mindset, your choices, & your wellbeing. Yes, societal pressures exist. Yes, the juggle is real. But you are not a passive victim of circumstance. You have the power to actively manage your thoughts, implement new strategies, & build a life & business that feel aligned & fulfilling.

It’s about working smart, not just hard. It’s about being kind to yourself. It’s about remembering that your journey as a mother-entrepreneur is unique & valid. You might feel like the tortoise sometimes, especially when you see others apparently racing ahead, but as long as you keep moving, keep learning, & keep taking ownership, you *will* get there. Your version of “there.”

So, the next time that Mum Guilt Gremlin starts whispering in your ear, take a deep breath. Acknowledge him, then politely (or not so politely!) tell him you’re busy thriving. You’ve got this.

P.S. What’s one mindset shift or wellbeing strategy you’re going to commit to this week to help quieten your own ‘Mum Guilt’ Gremlin? Share in the comments below – let’s support each other!

P.P.S. Join the conversation & get more insights & support in our Femme:Connect Facebook community today [Link to: https://www.facebook.com/groups/femmeconnect].

Carlene Nisbett

Founder & CEO, Femmeprenista (Coach, Mentor, Speaker)

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Wife, Mother of four, Business Owner, PhD Researcher, Pet mom, Plant mom, 5’0″ tall

Passionate Multitasker & Wine Lover, You get the drift…

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